Love Song Reveals Social Media Etiquette

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I got to thinking tonight about how people view other people in social media.  I realized that a lot of love songs from the 90′s fit the bill.

“I’ve been watching you baby, for a very long time”

If you’ve ever been talking to someone and the two of you start talking about someone who is “Internet Famous”, you may have experienced feelings of euphoria, amazement, wonder and curiosity.  I think many of these same feelings are like infatuous love (yes!  I’m going to use that word even if it’s not a word).

I’ve seen people get into a frenzy about meeting celebrities, regardless of origin.  With SXSW around the corner, I’m sure I will be meeting all sorts of folks again.  To me, everyone is a person and I look forward to understanding a bit of them and who they are vs spewing back what I’ve read about them.  This worked out well on a plane ride back from Atlanta when I sat next to a player from the Vikings.  We just chatted about the sort of things young adults chat about: career, work schedules, exercise, goals, free time, tattoos and blogging.  I usually sleep on plane rides but had a great and authentic conversation.

Social media allows us to feel “close” to someone we’ve never met.  This is known as “ambient awareness” and is very much like overhearing a conversation on, let’s say public transit for 40 minutes.  By the time you get off at your stop, you feel you have a good sense of the topic and how the two people feel.

You may have even been tempted to interrupt and offer information.  I know I’ve done that at a coffee shop before hearing two people talk about technology!

A great first step to take your initial meeting from fanboy/fangirl to something more authentic is to greet the person, share your name and shake their hand.  I still get, “I follow you on Twitter!” and have been confused about how to reply to this sort of statement.  Figured it out last month and  I now say, “Tell me about your blog”.  This allows me to redirect the focus and learn about the other person.

The key to networking is the same as love; be relaxed and sincere.  Spend time listening.  Bring something interesting that you’re doing to the table.  Connect with meaningful stories that contribute concepts of value.

I think Jodeci’s song, “Come and Talk to Me” says it all:

I’ve been watching you baby, for a very long time,

I’ve got my eyes on you

I’ve been watching you for so very long,

trying to get my nerve worked up to be so strong,

I really want to meet you but I’m kind of scared,

cause you’re the kind of lady with so much class,

I get my thoughts together for the very next day,

but when I see you lady I forget to say,

your eyes and hair, such a beautiful tone,

the way you dress and walk, it really turns me on,

Chorus

Come and talk to me,

I really want to know you

Can I talk to you?

I really want to know you

Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh,

There you are again, with the same smile each day,

I want to know what it is to make me feel this way,

I wish I could grab you, tell you what it means to me,

to see you walking my way, it really makes my day,

before I go to sleep and dream about you, I’m a single man and I hope that you’re single too,

my <what?>, something inside my mind <what?>,

cause curiosity <what?> out of me,

talk to me, talk to me, talk to me baby,

Chorus

Come and talk to me, (my baby)

I really want to meet you

Can I talk to you?

(uhh, and you know)

I really want to know you

Come and talk to me, (you know, you know, baby)

I really want to meet you

Can I talk to you?

I really want to know you

I want to know, you want to tell me your name

(let me play your game)

I want to know, you want to tell me your name

I want to know, you want to tell me your name

I want to know, I really want to know you baby

Come and talk to me,

I really want, I really want, I really want to know you

(and you know)

I really want, I really want, I really want to know you

Come and talk to me,

I want to know you

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